Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow. (The Prophet-chapter 3)
indeed Kahlil's work is always inspiring...as much as im happy to see people decide to be in the bond of marriage..i have to admit that my own perspective of it rather invites criticism about me being too feminist (i guess the debate on this is way too extensive)..well i take it literally...perhaps im too devastated to what's been happening to the world...perhaps im being too paranoid about things...perhaps i concede to reality way too easy than other people who deny that they're being in denials....but please dont get me wrong on this...perhaps im being scared of what is real..i dont know..i dont think i have the answers...
but there's one thing i wana let the world know...i never have doubts in one thing...there's always something in nothingness..and to those who have found it...they have found the answers...i used to have a chat with my sister after she got married..
me: kakak takut tak to infidelity and unfaithfulness?
my sister: takut..
me: you got married anyway
my sister: all you need to do is to believe.
and i guess she's found something in nothingness...and im more than happy to see her happy in her marriage....